I’ve experienced several ups and downs over the last few days. I kept thinking about him. But the good thing is that I am now able to dismiss the thoughts quite quickly, but this weekend the thoughts and memories were popping up more and more frequently.
It doesn’t help that his face keep catching me by surprise when I’m on my phone, thanks to the iPhone camera roll features. But I don’t have the heart to delete everything yet.
Yesterday I was fed up of the increasing frequency of the thoughts. So I decided to give myself the time to actually go through a couple of our photos of the good times. I revisited photos of our holiday, our engagement, times with friends and just funny photos from when we were chilling. I actually had the strength to delete quite a few photos. Not everything, but I think this is going to be a step-by-step thing. I don’t know if I will ever have the heart to delete everything, but for now I am deleting a couple every now and then.
Today I realised he only popped into my head once in the morning and then once earlier this evening. Then obviously now as I am writing this. I feel like going through some of the photos yesterday helped me?! Either way, when I realised that he hadn’t popped up in my head a fraction of the amount of times he has been in the recent past, I felt a sense of relief. Is this me… growing? Accepting? Whatever it is, I am SO here for it. I just hope it lasts!
I even told my best friend yesterday, that I feel like I have been genuinely happy recently. Like aside from the times when the thoughts of him come and piss me off that is. Genuine happiness feels like something so unusual. I feel like I have been forced to fake my happiness maybe 70% of the time over the last few months. But that percentage is definitely decreasing. Doing lots of reflecting and surrounding myself with friends and doing things I wasn’t very open to before (mainly going out frequently and saying yes to motives haha) has helped. A lot. But in the process I’ve discovered a whole new side of me that I haven’t seen before.
It initially worried me to think that I am discovering all these new things about me as I’m getting into my late 20s. I am starting to appreciate the smaller things in life, and most of all being less critical of myself and learning to love myself. But definitely better late than never. Did I almost marry someone without actually discovering who I am and not knowing how to love myself?! That sh*t scares me. Thank god for the universe eh?!
Med school is also starting to get more and more real. Starting to approach the end of our first placement, all of our foundation job application stuff starts from today and the biggest surprise today was getting a glimpse of my future GMC number! Fingers crossed, with hard work, good things are on the way.
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